Tonight, the delicious topic heating up a specific table of women at their favorite restaurant, Ernie’s is: Mr. Perfect. What qualities would he have? Would be tall, have dark hair and blue eyes? Caring or warmhearted —or will just be athletic? Jaine Bright and her three girlfriends start off with the basics — he would be faithful and reliable, the responsible type, with a great sense of humor (Howard, 2000). However as the conversation gains momentum, they start another kind of conversation — you know, that kind of talk that women never, ever would have in front of a man (Estes, 1994). That kind of conversation that is funny and cheeky, and slightly obscene.
That kind of talk whose repertoire includes anything that makes women laugh in a way unchecked until they appear silly, not caring if their tonsils appear or not. A conversation that is accompanied by a sex laugh that is different from a laugh about more educated themes, because it reaches far and deep in the psyche, shaking all sorts of things, playing in our bones and causing a nice feeling and warm run by our body. A laugh that is passionate, decidedly wild, that brings the woman to a state of intense sensory awareness that includes, but not limited, her sexuality (Estés, 2004).
In the modern world this ritual of intimate conversation between women can occur on blogs, Twitter and Tumblr or other forms of virtual communication. It can be especially present in fandom, where anonymity allows users to share their innermost thoughts and desires in irreverent way, bringing out the goddess Baubo that exists in each one of us.
Baubo treats sexuality in a fun way, allowing women to speak of this subject without moral concern if it’s right, it is a sin or is ugly and dirty. With Baubo only speak of what exists and laughs with it. She also works the sexuality as a driving force of the creative life of a woman, able to lift the energy of the aridity of everyday life and make the fields of our psyche back to evergreen. This is because the power of sexuality is a vital force, the force that creates a new life, the strength that comes from the our Kundalini, where she lives asleep, curled up in itself and that awakens our potential (Resende, 2012).
Thus, the goddess Baubo gives us the interesting idea that a little obscenity can help us dispel depression. She says that certain types of laughter, coming from all the stories that women have for each other that are so spicy… these stories activate the libido. They access the fire of interest of woman for life. The belly and laugh goddesses are what we seek. The funny and “dirty” story can end the depression, also pulling the heart of angry, leaving the woman happier than before because in the wild, the irreverent and the sacred, the sacred and the sexual, are not separate but live together as a group of old women waiting for us in the road to share our stories and laugh like crazy with each other (Estés, 2004).
Estés, C. P. 2004. Women who run with the wolves. Ed. Rocco, Rio de Janeiro.
Howard, L. 200. Mr. Perfect. Pocket Books, New York.
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